Tuesday, March 15, 2011
The Tangled Web of "Mess"
Ok, so there is the possibility of a suitor in my life. However, this is turning out to be a tangled web of mess. I'm not sure how I feel about him, and that's complicated. We haven't had the discussion of "where we are" and how we are "feeling" at the current moment but I feel that that conversation is coming...and soon...and I'm not going to know how to respond. Part of it is I'm not sure how attracted I am to him. Isn't that part of the package? There's A LOT going on in my life right now and a part of me does not want to drag him into everything. I don't think it's fair to him. My mind is so scattered and I want to be fair to him. But at the same time, I want to be fair to myself too. I don't want to ruin something that could be great. I don't want to run scared again. And if this relationship is not meant to be then fine. That's FINE. But, yet the voice of self-doubt is running through my head. And I'm running scared...
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Are you running scared because you do not feel for him or for other reasons. If you're so unsure then pray about it. When it comes, ask him what he thinks about trying to get to know each other for a little longer. Just remember to always be honest with yourself and him :)
ReplyDeleteI agree with Ali...do you know the reason you're running? Is it because you aren't totally feeling the relationship, or because you've got so much on your plate already and are afraid of adding more? Is he a possible suitor just because he is there, or is he a possible suitor because he is someone you could see yourself getting to know better and spend more time with? I think you just need to pray about it and see where God leads you. But don't let the other things in life get in your way. I know you know a bit about my relationship with Dominic-but before I started dating him, I was about to move. I lived in VA and I knew I was moving to TX in 2 months. I knew I liked him, I knew he liked me, and I knew he was going to ask me to be his girlfriend. But I knew I was moving so I was going to say no. I was talking to my mom about it and she said "Kati, if you WEREN'T moving, then would you say yes??" And I said yes. She said, then don't let moving get in the way of your feelings. Though it didn't end too well, I don't regret the relationship, and I am glad I didn't let moving determine my decision. I needed to follow my heart, and the relationship while I had it, and after, taught me a lot. I feel like this is sort of the same situation for you. Yes, you have a lot going on and that is definitely something to factor in. But if you think this could be a possibility and might be something you want to pursue, you don't want to let everything else get in the way of something that could turn out great. If he does give you the "where are we" talk, just be honest. Let him know you've got a lot on your plate and you do like him, but you're not 100% sure how much you can commit, or if you want to. And if it's meant to be, he will understand and work with you to either get to know you better, or take things at a pace you can handle. If it's meant to be, it WILL be. So don't stress too much over it girl! But I will be praying for guidance for you :)
ReplyDeleteI agree with both of these wonderful women. In a word, Honesty.
ReplyDeleteOpen the eyes of my heart Lord, Open the eyes of my heart. I want to see you.